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Loaded nouns and the adjectives that modify them are part of everyone’s vocabulary, but in recent decades-under the influence of Karl Rove and a general Republican emphasis on sounding practical-conservatives have leaned heavily upon them. This year’s election is turning out to be something of a referendum on radical nounism, which looks to be going down if not out. In the current economic crisis people want to know what the candidates will do. For the first time in decades, noun-intensive rhetoric isn’t winning votes.

We intuit that nouns are what practical people focus on. They’re what make the world feel solid. Nothing is more solid than a thing. Feel that table in front of you. It’s a hard thing, a hard truth.

Using nouns, especially loaded ones, to describe people is the simplest way to telegraph your view of which ones to trust and which not to trust A person is a thing, either a good thing or a bad thing depending on what nouns we assign. “Mavericks” are good things so you can trust anyone who is a maverick. That’s being plainspoken, calling a spade a spade. “Elitists” and “talkers” are bad things, so you can’t trust them. That’s a solid hard truth too.

Noun-heavy communication tends to rely on passive verbs, “is, am, to be” chief among them. I’m reminded of the two versions of “is” in Spanish: “ser” and “estar.” Both mean “is, are, am, to be” but the difference is for how long. I am Jeremy in the permanent sense, so to say that in Spanish I would use the verb “ser.” I am at home in the less permanent sense. To say that I would use the verb “estar.” How permanent is the “is” Palin uses to anoint the ones she likes and tar the ones she doesn’t? She’s talking permanent. A maverick is a maverick for life.

Lucky people (like me) tend to accumulate assumptions that we’re a Special Protected Subspecies (n. somehow permanently immune to bad luck). During the recent economic shocks a lot of formerly fortunate Americans are experiencing a cosmic wedgie on those assumptions.

Conservatism, like progressivism, is at root an inescapably important half-truth. Conservatism, true to its nouny tendencies, is at core the argument for permanence-that “what is should be.” Progressivism is the argument that “what isn’t should be.” Of course each is true, but not to the exclusion of the other. If conservatism were absolutely true nothing would ever change. If progressivism were absolutely true everything would change always. Enthusiasts for either half-truth sometimes argue in absolute terms, but in practice neither lives by those terms. Conservatives face the daunting task of selecting which of the many standards held at some place and time to argue must be conserved. Usually, it’s whatever strategy is conducive to their preferred perma-good. Progressives likewise have to decide which change to advocate. They tend to emphasize the changes that would bring them closer to their preferred perma-good too.

Conservatism and nounism resonate with our quest for the permanently good. Post-9/11 studies by Dr. Sheldon Solomon and Dr. Tom Pyszczynski found that people became more supportive of Bush’s conservative agenda when reminded that they will eventually die. They also found that people’s confidence levels (their estimate of their likelihood of being right about some factual guess) go up in front of funeral homes. It’s like that line from Dylan Thomas-”Do not go gently into that dark night. Rage rage against the dying of the light.” How? By declaring things solid; by leaning into nounism.

I think what’s happened in the past few decades is that the natural human tendency to try to lock in the currently good as “perma-good” has found a new formula in a bastardization of conservatism. Conservatism has come to mean not that this or that tradition is good but rather that “I’m permanently good; I’m never wrong; I am a good thing.” Nounism has become the conservative’s easy formula for deflecting all criticism and amping up all self-affirmation. It’s selective name-calling without regard to internal consistency. Call anyone opposes you a pejorative noun; call yourself and anyone who supports you a complimentary noun. Do it with enough certainty and conviction and it will stick. Permanently-after all, it’s a noun.

The Christian Right (like any heaven-headed fundamentalist group) is of course deeply committed to its members’ perma-good, the permanently good life hereafter that they’ll get and others won’t. The vast majority of people who believe in heaven and hell believe they’re among the chosen few who are going to heaven.

And who among us wouldn’t try to lock in all the good they could? I hate feeling I’m wrong. I hate thinking about losing things I love. I would love to find a way to lock in every good thing I’ve got and can imagine for myself. It would feel like real progress. I’d love to find a force-field that would keep me from ever feeling wrong.

I don’t believe I can, however, and I think the most enthusiastic conservatives really thought they could. They came to believe that they wouldn’t have to feel wrong because they would never be wrong. But it’s not working. A lot of the ideology that drove enthusiasm for conservatism just isn’t paying off in the real world. Their self-declared practical-mindedness isn’t turning out to be so practical. The conservatives are still exercising their self-allocated force-field to deflect criticism, but for those contending with the consequences of their self-certainty the force-field is softening. Palin’s mangled syntax exaggerates her nouniness at a bad time, when people are already growing skeptical about Republican strategies.

As a relevant aside, from a scientific perspective, this ain’t a great time for nouns anyway. Over the past few centuries scientific discovery has been on a robust trend away from things and toward processes. In the practical, hard, and solid world of science, verbs are proving more fundamental than nouns. Nouns are real only in a temporary sense, and we’re discovering that they’re made of verbs.

In the early 1800s we thought heat was a substance called “phlogiston,” but couldn’t figure out how it passed through solid objects. Then we realized it’s not a thing; it’s a process generated by a relationship. We thought that energy was a substance too, called “caloric” (and we still talk as though it were; consider the “caloric content” of that Snickers bar). There was even a theory that cold was also a substance, called “frigoric.” Thermodynamics put caloric and frigoric theory to rest demonstrating again that energy was a process, not a substance (article forthcoming explaining all this). Magnetism, electricity, radio waves, atoms (yes even atoms)-thinking about their nature has always started with treating them as things and moved to seeing them in dynamic terms. Science still uses nouns to identify them, but doesn’t think of them as things anymore. They’re things, but only in the sense that a sufficiently slow or cycling process produces a persistent and reliable habit that lasts long enough for us to treat it as a thing.

Like love. Like you and me-we too are temporary patterns or processes emergent from sub-processes that are emergent from sub-sub-processes. I’m fortunate to get to study and even do research in this science, and I’m fortunate to get to be a process here on earth (also a process) for a while.

Mind you, I use nouns all the time. I bite my tongue when tempted to only use positive ones about me and negative ones about people who bug me. (Admittedly those “nounists” really get my gourd.) The most solid-seeming noun I use is “I.” I mean I really really am. And the “am” I mean is the most permanent one possible.

Yes, I realize that I’m going to die. Since at fifty-two my hair hasn’t grayed (my beard has and I dye it) and my body still works perfectly unobtrusively, I confess I’m laboring under the delusion that I’m somehow an Immune and Immortal Thing-a permanent youth and a good nouny one at that. Give me a year or two and I’ll reluctantly catch up. My mom died of cancer an un-dyed brunette at fifty-nine, startled that she wasn’t exempt.

If it continues, science’s trend toward showing things to be processes will go a long way toward explaining death, though not in a way that will seem delightful at first. When they end, processes are gone in a way that nouns as we’ve imagined them are not.

But the hardnosed practical ones among us will get used to it, and it’s not so bad being a process reliably masquerading as a thing for a while. Besides, our processes include the delusional ones whereby even the hardnosed can content themselves with delusions of permanence. Within reason. Permanent while it lasts.

Maybe even the democratic process. For a while it was looking like the nounists had cast a permanent spell that would end it. Maybe not.

I’m an out- of-the-closet theorist in anti-theory society. I’m an evolutionary epistemologist, meaning a researcher and teacher focused on the ways we all generalize, drawing conclusions from inconclusive data, shopping among interpretations of evidence, theorizing and employing abstractions whether we know it or not. I look at how we do this stuff and how we could do it better.

I have worked in businesses, non-profits and academics. My Ph.D. is in Evolutionary Epistemology and I also have a Masters in public policy. I’ve written several e-books including “Negotiate With Yourself and Win! Doubt Management for People who can hear themselves think,” and “Executive UFO: A Field Guide to Unidentified Flying Objectives in the Workplace.” I have taught college-level psychology, sociology, Western History, theology, philosophy and English. I’m currently a research collaborator with Berkeley professor Terrence Deacon in what’s called Emergence theory: How life emerges from non-life and how things change when it does.

Spiritually, I’m a Taowinist, a cross between Tao and Darwin, meaning I think of life as a difficult open-ended tension between holding on and letting go. The path to living well isn’t through finding something eternal to hold on to or letting go of everything as some spiritualists suggest, but in managing and appreciating the tension, especially through the arts and sciences. Philosophically and interpersonally, I’m an Ambigamist: Deeply romantic and deeply skeptical.

I’m working on a few new books: “Doubt: A User’s Guide,” “Purpose: A Natural History,” “The Problem with People: Steps Toward An Objective Definition of Butthead (not just anyone with whom you butt heads)” and “Zoom Meditations: The Art of Multi-Level-Headedness.”

I play jazz bass and sing. My big persistent drivers seem to be competition for status, bottomless introspection, assiduous intellectual inquiry, real social change and good company. I love good company.

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Consider strongly the challenge of educating people of all ages on the subject of drug misuse and prevention of its accompanying misery. The negative impact of drug abuse and addiction needs to be slowed down by each and every one of us so that society can repair itself and regain lost health, general welfare, intelligence, and the happiness it once had prior to the unfortunate growth of the drug culture in our lives. And fund-raising is relatively easy with this project. Here are just a handful of facts about how drugs are negatively impacting upon our lives now:

While you are busy working to make a living and your children are at school, they are daily being tempted by some of their peers and drug-pushers to “just try it once. It won’t hurt you.” Fact: Unfortunately, there are cases in which youngsters have died during their first drug use.

Fact: Children are exposed to drugs earlier and earlier in their lives. By survey, 45% of the children in public schools in the U.S. have tried drugs or alcohol, or are using them, by the 8th grade.

Fact: Parents believe that their son or daughter would never take drugs, only to find out too late that their son or daughter already has a drug problem. Unfortunately, parents are often the last to know.There are many other unfortunate facts too numerous to list here. Fact: Drug abuse is an epidemic.

But you can do something to put the brakes on and get the druggies’ influence out of your life. Just take up the challenge and run with it.

Imagine the respect you will generate for your business, profession, your department, or community by taking a leadership role in the war against drugs. You will have possibly the greatest public relations project imaginable by distributing educational facts about drug abuse that will interest and astound those who read about the drug facts that you are sponsoring. Moreover, you can raise funds for your organization as well. It’s easy. Just imagine the influence your group would generate by distributing anti-drug education materials throughout your community.

Your project would begin a dialogue between parents and grandchildren and the children in their family. It would create communication between adults who know of someone seeking help but doesn’t understand what is happening as he or she falls prey to drug addiction and its accompanying misery. The road to drug abuse is fraught with poor health in mind and body, poor school and other performance skills, lack of motivation, rebellion, poverty, domestic violence, and even jail time and crime.

To slow down the influence of druggies, each and every one of us needs to take ownership of the drug problem and not cop out by saying, “It’s not my problem. It’s the school’s problem, the police problem, the medical community’s problem. Not so. It is our problem. There’s an easy way to do something about it by starting a fund-raising project that fights drugs.The information that follows will get you started. Start Now.

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Go to my website, and order the two sample booklets. These booklets can help you educate youth (and adults) around you. They are chock full of facts in text, drawings, and photographs that are easy to understand as you use the booklets to educate your loved ones. They’re a snap to order and cost very little. You can have your business or professional name printed on the back page or you can find sponsors and have their names or logos printed on the back pages. They’re great fund-raisers and they’re fun projects. Just go to the website: http://waragainstdrugs.org for details.

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The fascinating Criminal Psychology course begins by examining the history of crime and punishment. The course briefly looks into various theories of offending and then goes on to examine the psychology of violent crime in close detail. The investigation into the psychology of violent acts of crime provides a useful introduction to forensic psychology and the psychology of criminal profiling, both of which are examples of other enthralling courses we offer.

In addition, the Criminal Psychology course considers the psychology behind terrorist crimes, domestic violence, drug abuse, youth crime and victimology, as well as covering the prevention of crime, safety within the community and aspects of the criminal justice system.

There are a number of activities to complete at the end of every module within the Criminal Psychology course. The aim of these activities is to get you to apply the knowledge you have gained, during each module, to appropriate questions and tasks in a way that you are comfortable with. There are also 2 essays at the end of each section but you are required to pick only 1 of these! Your 500 word essays will be submitted and assessed by your personal tutor to successfully complete the Criminal Psychology course and receive your Diploma.

For those of you who have been away from academia for some time, do not worry the Criminal Psychology course comes with a full 12 months tutor support to help you through your study.

Here are some handy tips on how you might want to structure your essays.

You do not have to say anything new! Your essay should show the assessor that you have understood the information studied and that you can produce an evidence based argument
If the question looks difficult and you are not sure what is being asked, ask questions of the question.
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Aside from its commercial use in the early 1900′s, heroin was not nearly as big of a problem as it is today. The United States got its first real taste of heroin addiction on a massive scale after the Vietnam war. While away in Vietnam, U.S. Soldiers were exposed to heroin on a daily basis. It was even being sold in the streets by Vietnamese children. It was so prevalent and available that soldiers could get it anywhere, anytime. This, combined with the trauma and stress of a war atmosphere and being wounded or ill, was a recipe for disaster. Many U.S troops came back from the Vietnam war hooked on heroin, and struggled for years after. Since then, America has had an immense and ever-growing heroin problem on our hands.

Nowadays, the drug is appealing to younger and younger crowds. Teenagers in all parts of the country are starting to experiment with heroin. For the last ten years or so, opiates have been popular among American youth. What often happens is, these young people start by using prescription pain killers. After building up a tolerance, they eventually find themselves chasing after more powerful opiates. Most of the time this path leads them to heroin. The good part is that more and more American cities are starting to recognize the problem among youth and take action. Schools across the country are having parent meetings where they can join and discuss what they can do to help the situation.

Heroin addiction can result in physical withdrawals if the addict is without the drug for a certain number of hours. Some symptoms of heroin withdrawal include nausea, irritability, diarrhea, cold sweats, insomnia, pain, weakness and anxiety. It is important for a heroin addict to seek treatment. Aside from physical withdrawals, it is highly recommended that the addict receive counseling and attend 12 step meetings. Recovering from heroin addiction is said to be a life long process and it requires regular work.

Opiates are very powerful drugs. Heroin in particular is the strongest, and also among the cheapest. It can be extremely easy for people of any age to develop a strong dependency on it. Always be mindful of the dangers of drugs. If you have any questions, do some research. Be aware.

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The essay as a whole is constructed very cleverly in that it conveys all the contradictory reactions most patients have to therapy and thus has the feel of a session in itself. The effect therefore was therapeutic for me, as Merkin’s article articulates many thoughts I’ve been aware of but have not explicitly formulated or stated. On the one hand, her hunt for the perfect doctor is reminiscent of Ahab’s insatiable quest for Moby Dick, as she implicitly longs for something that cannot be attained, or, more specifically, for someone who does not exist: “what I wanted was for her [a therapist from the author's youth] to be my mother, just as early on I longed for my male therapists to be my father… I wanted, that is, to be adopted-actually adopted-just as I would later wish for one or the other of my therapists to leave his wife for me.”

And yet at the same rate, Merkin honestly grapples with the grim limits of psychoanalysis: “therapy, as Freud himself made clear, is never about finding a cure.” Its aim is rather “to convert ‘hysterical misery’ into ‘common unhappiness.’” Consequently, “there is no absolute goal, no lifetime guarantee.” But in her most sober moments, she recognizes the plain virtues of the predicament when she describes how “it is a place to say out loud all that we have grown accustomed to keeping silent, in the hope that we might better understand ourselves and our missteps.”

The concluding paragraphs function as a nice microcosm of the overall article. In explaining her recent decision to stop seeing her analyst, she reviews the pros and cons. Although therapy may be correctly construed as, to use her daughter’s apt terminology, “emotional prostitution,” and even worse, a futile exercise of fixating on childhood traumas that need not be examined to death, lest they hold her back from living in the moment, it has also helped her understand elements of her personality on a deeper level than she would have been able to otherwise. Merkin wisely uses the word “addict,” perhaps the key adjective of the essay, in her closing comments, to characterize the contradictory and inescapable nature of her union with analysis-it may be riddled with flaws and frustration, and at its worst it can serve as a sort of crutch, but with realistic expectations therapy can also be an extremely beneficial, palliating process.

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Want to find one of the best rehab facilities to cure your own addiction? Or is that also one of other members in your family’s addiction? You definitely need to look at Blue Water Detox rehab facility then. They are certainly one of the best (or probably the best) facilities you could find around your own vicinities. And there are reasons, of course, for your choice of preferring this facility over the other.

The most obvious reason of why you should come to this center is that they provide various Drug Detox Programs that works best in two basic ways. First, the programs will cleanse your own addiction, or in more common words, the programs will cure you from your own addictive problems. However, what appears to be more of importance of these Drug Addiction Detox programs is that they are also keeping you in that cleanse state for a very long time. And this is the second reason, why the institution becomes the best drug rehab center you could trust with.

As you already realize, addiction cannot just be cured to make you stay clear of the drug. It is exactly the after-math process that counts, that is to say, keeping you from plunging into re-addict, and thus, chronic state of addiction. Indeed, it will be a complete waste if you get cured from either drug or alcohol addiction yet only to find yourself get re-addicted in a short while after you leave the rehab center. That is fairly hardly to be called a medication at all, to say the least. And for doing such an important job to keep you clear from the drug for as long as forever is the concerned, this facility is doing their all best to help you. And thus, this is your best facility to best help fighting your addiction.

These days, there are more drugs than ever making their way into schools, playgrounds, and even churches; all of the places where we believe our children to be safe. Not only are teenagers and children finding themselves with access to illicit drugs, but many youths are finding it easy to access prescription drugs from family members, classmates, and other sources. There are many symptoms of drug abuse, and identifying and recognizing them can be difficult.

The most common symptom of drug use is a radical change in behavior. If your once jubilant child is now depressed, lethargic, or secretive, it can certainly be a red flag for potential drug use. Suicidal behavior, a lack of interest in once favored activities, or a refusal to talk about social activities and what they have been up to can certainly signal that there is a serious problem. Other symptoms to look for include spending money that you cannot account for or even stealing from family members or others.

On the other side of the spectrum, there are many drugs that can cause opposite effects. Amphetamines, cocaine, and other drugs can cause hyperactivity, an inability to sleep, and racing speech and thoughts. If your child is behaving strangely or suddenly develops an inability to focus, drugs can certainly be a factor. Many drugs also create bizarre trains of thought, including hallucinations and distorted perceptions. Taking the time to talk with your child regularly so that you can identify any of these changes can make a great difference in your ability to identify potential drug use.

If you suspect drug use in your child or teenager, an at home drug testing kit is certainly advisable. By using an at home drug test, you can keep the results confidential while ensuring that you are getting reliable and accurate answers. Many at home drug tests are fast and very easy to use, and you will find that there are home drug testing kits available that test for a wide variety of substances. Drug abuse is a growing problem among today’s youth, and it is certainly one that must be taken seriously. Don’t give in to the fear that you will upset your child or invade their privacy. Drug use can kill, and taking the risk of angering your child by giving them an at home drug test will always outweigh the risks of untreated and unidentified drug use.

There are many medical home test kits on the market today. If you or someone you know ever needs one, there are three things to consider… confidentiality, accuracy and a fair price. Make sure you go to a reputable online website that only uses Medical Home Testing Kits that are FDA approved (or cleared).

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Introduction

Often in therapy a story can help the client to understand their own emotions and feelings about their own situation. At first they just hear the story as a narrative but soon as with most good stories the client puts themselves into the action and associates with the plot line, as they try to make sense of how they can assimilate the underlying psychological message to their own lives.

In China many young girls under 27 years old are obsessed with finding Mr. Right, the boy who is from the good family, with a good education, with a good job with good prospects and has a good character. I use the word “good” here many times because it is easily understood by the girls themselves to mean a boy (young man) that can offer them a future that contains security for her, her family and material wealth. Love is always low on the list of requirements prior to marriage in China but woefully regretted later when actually betrothed.

After the age 27 in China girls go into panic mode, Mr. Right has not appeared and the range of available bachelors has narrowed considerably particularly as a myth about baby health in a woman’s 30′s is wide-spread and believed to be true. At this stage many girls despair and find themselves under considerable family pressure (and peers) to get married at any cost. Many rush into loveless marriages to men they hardly know but are willing to “take them on” so to speak.

So why did many of these older girls struggle to find a Mr. Right? Partly the problem was expectations and partly the belief that their purity (virginity) would be attractive to a suitor and that by remaining a good girl they have a better chance of a high alpha male prospect. A second aspect is education, as girls become more educated and so see any man below their own achievements as excluded from their ideal.

The Fairy Tale

The aim of therapy here is to enable girls to be more realistic about what boys actually have to offer. In the story we relate Mr. Right to a Prince Charming and to the girl as the perfect Princess. We see all other men as “frogs” those who are just the everyday normal young men who are starting out in life with average jobs and average ambitions. All stories are, “once upon a time” and end, “they lived happily ever-after” if only real life was so simple!

A Tale about a Princess:

Once upon a time there was a Princess who was looking for a Prince to marry. In the land Princes were rare and hard to find. So many frogs came to call for the Princess to spend time with and consider but none could match her ideal of her Prince (Mr. Right). Although some frogs had some of the attributes of Princes, good looks, money, education, high family connections etcetera none could bring all the gifts of her perfect Prince. After a while many frogs stopped trying to woo the Princess and in fact avoided her as unattainable and not worth wasting time on.

Meanwhile at her castle her parents (the King and Queen) reminded her that only good girls find Princes and that bad girls will fall prey to frogs and bad men. So the Princess held her purity in high esteem and often told frogs how perfect she was.

A long time has passed and now the Princess is over the age of marriage and finds that many Princess’s she knows about are married to other Princess’s and she is still alone. Her parents now constantly berate her for her poor judgment in not accepting earlier offers of marriage. They talk about her not being wanted soon as she reaches thirty and that she should start to consider many of the frogs she had once rejected. Some of those frogs have now changed into Princes and have good posts, material wealth and spoiled wives. How had she not seen these frogs had potential at the time? Her married friends worry about her, they have babies (just one) she will soon only be able to birth a poor sickly child as she ages. The Princess reflects on the wasted years of searching for the Prince that never existed to her standards, that was perhaps a frog in disguise, a frog that became a Prince perhaps.

However not all is well in the Kingdom. Many other Princesses married what they thought was a Prince who offered the good job, with the good prospects, with the good family and appeared to be the good boy for many a Princess. As these young men grew many did not reach their early ambitions, settled for an everyday life, accumulated some possessions and saved some income for the future but never enough for a castle. The girl’s Prince was in fact just a frog. Had always been a frog if she had just realised. Deep down many Princesses knew they married a simple frog but hoped over time they could change them to become a Prince and give them the dream they had been told was theirs by right of passage into marriage and motherhood.

Alas in our story we learn a simple truth, a frog is just a frog and with the best will in the world will probably remain a frog forever and ever until the day they die. So our lonely Princess has passed the magically age and around her are the frogs who are left. The mostly unwanted, discarded (divorced), despicable and unworthy. What is she to do – what happened to that dream of a handsome Prince to whisk her away to security, comfort and happiness? Now she felt regret, how could she had been so foolish to believe that she was so special and above those around her for so many years.

Fairy stories should have happy endings – after all they are meant to give us hope and a positive feeling. However this is real life – not every story has a happy ending and so through change we can only hope to adjust to a new reality that we misjudged our future prospects and around us live many many frogs – content with their lives, maybe not the best, but not alone and forgotten.

Discussion:

In the above tale of course our princess is the girl who is waiting so long for Mr. Right but rejected so many suitors as not ideal. Many of the other Princesses decided to marry the frog in hope that through a kiss and encouragement they could become a Prince but most if not all just wanted to be happy frogs and not become something they were not. So when the girls chose to wait for the cultural ideal they of course missed the thought that some are late developers. Some girls realised that Mr. Right (the Prince) was in fact a myth and decided instead to marry Mr. Good-Enough, someone not perfect but acceptable. When these girls lowered their unrealistic expectations of young men they actually found that a good enough young man (frog) could be the right one for them.

The above story and analysis is a fair reflection of Chinese society as far as young girls from about 22 to 27 years old pursue their likely marriage partner and the post 27 dilemma of being alone and unwanted. It is this cultural outlook that leads to many girls losing out on the chance to find suitable partners and fooling themselves that a Prince actually exists and will rescue them from their dull lives in the castle with baba and mama. What does the girl do when that time has passed, still pure, still at home, still inexperienced in the ways of men, still stubbornly believing that even at this late date a Prince will appear and save the day?

Therapy

In therapy this tale is often told to young women (27+) who complain of no relationships, that there must be something wrong with them. That they see no future now with no marriage and a child. They come to therapy hoping to learn about why they are alone, unhappy, rejected now by men as too old to be wanted. Depression is the usual presenting issue with anxiety brought on by an unsure future. By telling them the fairy story of the lonely Princess we hope to get them to realize that their own unrealistic expectations led to their current position and that cognitive faulty thinking about young men and societies pressures to a material goal was perhaps misplaced and that where love, passion and natural curiosity took no part in their youthful outlook towards what men want and do not want led them to reject many perhaps good enough young men earlier in their 20′s. It is not the therapist place to tell the women directly this but allow her to explore the tale from her own perspective and make her own conclusions. Some patients whole heartedly accept the comparisons other reject the idea (mainly as they still cling to the hope of a Prince) and open up other areas of dialogue that can by the provocation of the tale help them to explore their historical behaviour more objectively than perhaps they had done previously before coming to therapy.

Conclusion:

Although therapy can take many forms the use of mythology, stories, tales, metaphors can all help a client to see more clearly their own story and relate to the characters in the fairy tale and make some sense out of the confusion of depression and anxiety. Of course other tales can also make for good therapy bases, such as the Princess in the Tower, whose long hair dangles down for all the frogs to see. This is the woman who wants rescuing from her dull life thinking that a Prince will save her and give her the life she thinks she deserves, there is the Princess whose finger is pricked and falls into a deep sleep. Here she is the woman once bitten twice shy, that rejects all suitors in case she is hurt again. The lowly girl who lives in a dysfunction family with half sisters who hate her and a mother determined to treat her as a servant. She runs away, lives with several men and hopes that the Prince will come and find her but when she does meet one she is rejected again by his mother as not good enough. (Every Chinese girl’s fear of the mother in law). She perhaps is not so Snow White or a Cinderella, as she leads others to believe?

I hope that Chinese girls will read this article and feel free to comment about its cultural implications and insight. Perhaps there is more to learn here and for some girls they will help themselves by realising that the Prince is just a frog after all and that for a real happy ending then perhaps Mr. Good-Enough is just around the next corner?

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Dr. Stephen Myler is from Leicester in England, an industrial town in the Midlands of the United Kingdom. He holds a B.Sc (Honours) in Psychology from the UK’s Open University the largest in the UK; he also has an M.Sc and Ph.D in Psychology from Knightsbridge University in Denmark. In addition to this Stephen holds many diplomas and awards in a variety of academic areas including journalism, finance, teaching and advanced therapy for mental health. Stephen has as a Professor of Psychology many years teaching experience in colleges and universities in England and China to post 16 young adults, instructing in psychology, sociology, English, marketing and business. He has been fortunate to travel extensively from Australia to Africa to the United Sates, South America, Borneo, most of Europe and Russia. Stephen’s favourite hobby is the study of primates and likes to play badminton. He believes that students who enjoy classes with humour and enthusiasm from the teacher always come back eager to learn more. Currently Dr. Myler is head of clinical psychology at St. Michael Hospital, Shanghai.

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